Originally Posted by Steve Pavlina
Erin is involved in a mastermind group that's all women. Erin loves it and gets a lot out of it. I once participated in the group for a few sessions last year, but I didn't like it. I thought they spent too much time talking about their feelings and not enough time figuring out what to do and holding each other accountable for action. I also felt like I couldn't really be myself with that group -- I felt like I'd scare or intimidate them if I talked about my real plans and goals, and that didn't seem fair to them. I'm sure they get along better without me too. Another guy also participated for a session or two but soon quit as well. On the other hand, when I hang out with a group of guys, especially growth-oriented ones, there's a different feel to that energy, and that feels more uplifting to me. For one, guys seems to tease each other a lot more, which I admit might seem a strange way of relating to each other.
I really feel the personal truth in this paragraph on a deep level. It's interesting that when we saw you in NYC in October, my father commented to me that you seemed a little "whimpy" (I think those were his words), but this post really doesn't give that impression at all. Hehe, cool
. Glad he could be proved wrong. I think you were just tired that day, as you wrote before.
Anyway, I do feel that masculine energy and feminine energy are separate and distinct, at least at the level we're looking at them. I get this sense when interacting with people of different sexes...there is definitely a different vibe between a group of men, growth oriented or not, than between a group of women, or a group of mixed gender. When it comes to personal growth I definitely prefer the more "masculine energy" approach.
Here's a few examples of how this plays out with me:
When I pick music to excite me, pump me up, or whatever "uplifitng" purpose, I definitely choose more "masculine" sounding stuff. Feminine sounding music can definitely do all this stuff but for some reason it doesn't work as well on me.
I never really find myself with the urge to experience a "range of emotions" the way women do; I rather like maintaining a feel good state and expanding on THAT, rather than, say, getting a kick out of exploring feelings with my friends. Like "Oh that's so sad...TELL ME MORE!"
I really loved 300 and find myself quoting it at random times. Hahaha, woohoo!
I might sound "certain" of myself, but I'm open to anyone questioning anything I said. Let's grow here without getting our egos involved.