Is it really true that "How to Be a Woman" and "How to Be a Man" would have the exact same content? While there might be some overlap, I really don't think the contents would be identical.
This article was about masculine energy, which can certainly be used by men or women, so it could have also been titled, "How to Use Masculine Energy." I thought the simpler title would be better though.
I wrote this article partly to stimulate some discussion on gender differences and how to deal with them consciously, neither ignoring nor exaggerating them. It's a sensitive subject for some, but I think it can also stimulate a lot of growth by sharing different perspectives.
Should men and women strive for a masculine-feminine balance in themselves? Or should they embrace one side more than the other? What do you think?
Personally, I think we're stronger when we embrace some of those differences and don't try to be the same. I feel best when I stay clearly on the masculine energy side. When there's too much feminine energy flowing through my life, it just feels wrong to me.
Erin is involved in a mastermind group that's all women. Erin loves it and gets a lot out of it. I once participated in the group for a few sessions last year, but I didn't like it. I thought they spent too much time talking about their feelings and not enough time figuring out what to do and holding each other accountable for action. I also felt like I couldn't really be myself with that group -- I felt like I'd scare or intimidate them if I talked about my real plans and goals, and that didn't seem fair to them. I'm sure they get along better without me too. Another guy also participated for a session or two but soon quit as well. On the other hand, when I hang out with a group of guys, especially growth-oriented ones, there's a different feel to that energy, and that feels more uplifting to me. For one, guys seems to tease each other a lot more, which I admit might seem a strange way of relating to each other.
Maybe I am imbalanced, but this sort of imbalance feels right to me. |