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windovervocalcords · 05-10-2008, 03:09 PM

Your opening post reflects a number of things. You don't have a close knit circle of friends, (and you would like one?) and you feel envious when you see others who have what you want.

Welcome to the human condition. This is exactly what we have. We want to be happy and yet we don't know how to go about it. Right now, it sounds as though you think that if you had a close knit circle of friends you would be happy. Is that true? Is a close knit circle of friends necessary for happiness? I'm not sure it is. I'm certain there are people right now with friends who aren't happy. In fact, we hear daily about celebrities who outwardly appear to have it all, who have scads of admirers and popularity, who appear surrounded by friends and yet, they are subject to unhappiness; marital discord, scandal, drug abuse, mental illness.

Maybe what you are trying to say is that you feel lonely. That is such a basic human emotion. We all feel that at times. Even those of us with best friends may feel alienated and lonely.

Two things come to mind', is it possible for you to be unconditionally friendly with your present state of mind? Allowing it some breathing room? You are not alone. Others feel the same way that you do, and they may be less fortunate than you are. Right now you are able with the miracle of the internet to reach out to others.

At the very least, you can see that you have friends here. People who are concerned and caring enough to offer you suggestions and to offer friendship.

This is a great forum--personal development is what it's about. We all have our challenges. Thank you for daring to share yours. May all benefit.

wind

05-10-2008, 03:09 PM	#26 (permalink)
windovervocalcords Junior Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 8	Your opening post reflects a number of things. You don't have a close knit circle of friends, (and you would like one?) and you feel envious when you see others who have what you want. Welcome to the human condition. This is exactly what we have. We want to be happy and yet we don't know how to go about it. Right now, it sounds as though you think that if you had a close knit circle of friends you would be happy. Is that true? Is a close knit circle of friends necessary for happiness? I'm not sure it is. I'm certain there are people right now with friends who aren't happy. In fact, we hear daily about celebrities who outwardly appear to have it all, who have scads of admirers and popularity, who appear surrounded by friends and yet, they are subject to unhappiness; marital discord, scandal, drug abuse, mental illness. Maybe what you are trying to say is that you feel lonely. That is such a basic human emotion. We all feel that at times. Even those of us with best friends may feel alienated and lonely. Two things come to mind', is it possible for you to be unconditionally friendly with your present state of mind? Allowing it some breathing room? You are not alone. Others feel the same way that you do, and they may be less fortunate than you are. Right now you are able with the miracle of the internet to reach out to others. At the very least, you can see that you have friends here. People who are concerned and caring enough to offer you suggestions and to offer friendship. This is a great forum--personal development is what it's about. We all have our challenges. Thank you for daring to share yours. May all benefit. wind Last edited by windovervocalcords; 05-10-2008 at 03:13 PM.