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Originally Posted by fireguy  I work as a personal trainer. If I don't
help people reach their fitness goals, I don't get paid. If I dont preform a service to them, I don't get paid. My motivation is money and personal satisfaction for me. Therefor I am a darkworker. If money were only a nice bonus and helping people reach their fitness goals was my main motivation, then I'd be a light worker.
Lightworker: The more money I make, the more people I can help. - successfull and happy
Darkworker: The more people I help, the richer I get. - successfull and happy
Lightworker syndrome: I dont need the money, I just want to help. Pleas, let me be your doormat! Let me help you! - wont last long
Darkworker syndrome: Crappy service, larger than life promises, no garantuee and waay high prices. - won't last long |
I'm glad you figured out something that gives you a boost. I'm just not sure of the polarity ideas. This is why. To avoid the syndrome of either side, one must apply a bit of the opposite worker motivation to not become taken over by the syndrome.
Take the polarity motivation of a dark worker, motivated to make money - now what? oh, I better be motivated to actually help someone or I make no money (syndrome and pulls motivation into the lightworker's world (caring if others get help)).
Or the lightworker's motivation to help people, motivated to the point of, oh no! I forgot about me. I better be motivated to provide for myself (a darkworker motivation) or I'll be a doormat(syndrome).
I mean, if one is motivated to horde money but one has to provide a service that helps people, how do you keep the bit about caring about people out of the motivation?
If one is motivated to help people, but then one has to remember to think of theirselves or be a grand doormat, how do you get that motivation of focus on self out of the equation?
I think a polarized motivation that focuses on self or others exclusively, eventually brings one to realize that the motivation needs to focus on the other side too - or you get the syndrome. Polarizing basically washes out and has a built in equalizing effect.