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Originally Posted by wolfgang  I think the main point could be that when someone starts healing, it also unravels the suppressed whatevers that needs healing. That emotional healing is about bringing up your "stuff" and looking at it as part of you, for whatever reasons. Well, not for whatever reasons, but for reasons that doesn't blame anyone, even yourself. That shadow self stuff again.
Avoiding the unpleasant emotions is exactly what makes the emotions unpleasant. |
Wow Wolfgang, I do sooo agree. To be at peace with one's emotions, that is the zen way. We all have emotions, some we label pleasant, and others unpleasant. It seems to me that on my path, the thing that I now do differently is sit with those emotions, and let them be in my body. This is different from resisting, or making them right or wrong in my thoughts about them.
Emotions are, yet they are only emotions. We are more than our emotions, and so they do not define our totality, except when we resist them or make ourselves wrong for having them.
To me, the most important therapy lesson to be learned is that our thoughts are only thoughts; although they may seem momentarily true or false, in the end they are only thoughts. Our emotions are only emotions, also.
On the journey to the soul, I have found that I am more than my thoughts and emotions --- much more. And while therapists can point the way, that is all they can do. Gurus can point the way. Family and friends can point the way. But we have to take the steps. For me, the heart has been my most critical compass -- that is what makes whatever I do work for me, following my heart.
For me, the heart trumps family, therapists, and gurus. I would never put my path in someone else's hands entirely. Any teacher is here to help point the way, but I would never give my choice away to any of them.
Blessings from Belle,
