Well, those feelings are just feelings. Could you sit with them a moment, and let them in without resistence, could you really feel them in your body, and then ask yourself, could you let them go? If the answer is yes then let them go. If the answer is no then let them go (really the answer doesn't matter.)
There is strong evidence that the people who succeed in therapy (and in improving their perspective on the world) are people who work with their internal perspective and feel their feelings within their body, working with them there. The book called
Focusing provides compelling evidence that this is true based upon studies of those who are successful in therapy. This body-connection is the one constant factor in people who succeed in moving through the bad stuff, like depression. The book provides an eye-opening read.
This feeling things in your body approach, in one way makes complete sense. You are not in your mind chatter when you are feeling things in your body, or at least the mind chatter is diminished.
It seems to me mind chatter is a fairly useless and often truly harmful exercise; it can take you into the past to share a message of guilt, shame and blame with you, and then will project the belief that this perspective will never change into your visions of a future. . . . Survivors of trauma are typically retraumatized by reliving the past in their mind -- that kind of treatment actually makes them worse, sometimes much worse very quickly (even though this has been the old-school approach for years and years and years.) The latest work on trauma therapy clearly shows this is a very bad path, this reliving in your mind, for trauma survivors.
So, when these feelings come up, I suggest you just peacefully sit with them, and accept them fully instead of resisting them. Just being peaceful with your feelings can be helpful. And when the old story about what a XXXX you are comes up, how bad things are, how things will never get better, how crappy you feel, how others don't understand, how badly she treated you and you didn't deserve it, etc., etc., etc., distract yourself. This is destructive mind chatter, and it is typically harmful instead of being helpful.
I honestly think this is why walking has been shown to be so helpful to those experiencing depression. It takes them into a body experience, and gives them a bit of a respite from their own toxic head experiences. . . .
As simple as this all sounds, I'm not sure it is easy to do. We are so engrained to live in our minds and not experience with our bodies. . . .
Just a thought or two for you to consider -- Blessings from Belle,
