sigh... my most serious relationship to-date blew up basically over lack-of-sex and feeling physically very rejected... looking back on it, the guy's mom had died and while I was very supportive it almost became that we were so emotionally intimate that he didn't want physical intimacy, even though it was very much always his choice to spend 100% of his time with me. I totally sympathize- it feels absolutely awful to be routinely turned away from the one person you expect to be intimate with. Maybe could he be under stress or have something else emotional going on that would be expressed this way? Has he been to the doctor to check everything is good physically? Maybe if you are such great friends he just feels too emotionally vulnerable and is avoiding sex because he wants some distance- maybe trying to be a bit more independent emotionally and for both of you to spend more time on outside interests/friends would help (and would be healthy anyway if eventually you do decide to divorce)? Try to have an adult discussion about the porn- I assume it wouldn't bother you if he was satisfying you right? and he wants to satisfy you, so he ought to be willing to try to give it up for awhile and see if things change...?  |