The simple way to look at it is this:
If having sex with your spouse is extremely important to you then you should tell him and make it clear how important it is. If he won't have sex with you and he won't see a counselor (which is his right and his choice) then your next decision is whether you will stay with him or divorce him.
That will put him in the position of then deciding if he wants to be married to you or if he's willing to let the marriage go over the sex issue.
That's really it.
If, on the other hand, you decide that it's okay to be in a marriage where you're not getting sex then stop bugging him about it as it seems obvious he's made a choice. All you can do is react to his choice. He's choosing not to have sex with you (for whatever reason). You're indicating to him that you want to be in a marriage where sex is happening with each other.
You've got decisions to make. Be clear about what you want. Make your choices clear to him. Let him decide.
But staying on the fence another year or hoping things will get better probabaly won't work since this has been happening for years.
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