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Originally Posted by mercuryrising  If there was something I could change about myself, I would like to be more confident.
I am pretty knowledgeable in different areas, but I have a hard time admitting that to someone. I don't want to come off like I'm bragging.
Or someone will ask me about something and I'll give a non-committed answer, just in case I happen to be wrong.
I was wondering if anyone has any ideas on how I could become more confident.
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Hi. Well ill be damned. I am in the same situation and I am sure sooo many others with us. I think first of all you have to acknowledge and accept the fact that your confidence is not the greatest. Its a weak spot. Everybody has several weak spots and this is one of yours (and mine for that matter). Second of all, now that I start to think of it, I ask myself what is so bad about that? Would it be appropriate to say you are not confident when you have to interact with people? Big deal. You are probably strong in other areas, right?! I believe that you cannot have everything. You are born with certain core characteristics and after your child and adolescent years you cannot change them too much in my opinion. Well, maybe a bit and for some even substantially. I guess that depends on how much work you put into it and what works for you. Personally I have reached the stage where I am trying to just accept who I am with every flaw and every gift that is me. That is incredibly hard enough. Could this work for you?
Edit: I have been thinking about this and like to add that I have been working on my confidence for about 10 years until this very day. Looking back over that time I definitely notice an improvement eventhough its still pretty thin. Let me just clarify that it is without a doubt worth working on. My initial post might have given the impression that its just the way it is. No sirree!