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PennyD · 05-08-2008, 10:37 AM

I can't help feeling that a lot of mental time and energy is spent by any guy using this system to:
- continuously calculate her interest level
- monitor her actions
- remember how many days it’s been since you they last called
- organising stuff to do on the weekend by themselves for two whole months
- thinking up lies to tell about what you were doing on the weekend, because what you were doing wasn’t that exciting
- keeping track of how many dates you have had
- trying to think up a reason to give to someone after 5 or 6 dates why you still don’t have time to see them over a weekend..
- thinking about when to say no and maybe counting the no’s you have said before to ensure your quota
- counting 10 seconds while holding her
- thinking up a reason to give her when she ask why you don’t seem to like giving her a big hello or goodbye kiss
- thinking funny things to say anytime she asks you a direct question
- keep thinking of funny things to say even when she is upset because you don’t seem to be connecting with her or sharing yourself
- remembering not to touch her too much
- trying not to think about wanting to cuddle her as you are sitting far apart and this is not likely to change because she is shy or old fashioned so will not initiate ever!
- constantly being on guard of sharing too much, giving too much, telling too much,
- trying to calculate when you last shared, gave, told so as to figure out when would be appropriate to next share, give, tell..
- going out to more single bars again because the really great girl you had drifted away because you hardly called her or let her know you wanted to say hello
- monitoring her giving
- remembering how many I love you’s you have said and making sure the next one doesn’t come to soon..

I am exhausted just writing this list..

Thanks goodness I found a great authentic guy and we just decided to fall in love the old fashioned messy way.. all up front and open and risky…

The above advice is like ‘The Rules’ for girls, it manipulates woman insecurities and when you get clingy behaviour as a result it pretends that it is some sort of meaningful relationship.

Come on you can reach higher than that.

Now when you look across at someone and say hay take me as I am, I am good enough warts and all.. and they say yes please.. then that feeling when your relating on this level to someone is the greatest feeling ever.

05-08-2008, 10:37 AM	#23 (permalink)
PennyD Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Wellington New Zealand Posts: 32	I can't help feeling that a lot of mental time and energy is spent by any guy using this system to: - continuously calculate her interest level - monitor her actions - remember how many days it’s been since you they last called - organising stuff to do on the weekend by themselves for two whole months - thinking up lies to tell about what you were doing on the weekend, because what you were doing wasn’t that exciting - keeping track of how many dates you have had - trying to think up a reason to give to someone after 5 or 6 dates why you still don’t have time to see them over a weekend.. - thinking about when to say no and maybe counting the no’s you have said before to ensure your quota - counting 10 seconds while holding her - thinking up a reason to give her when she ask why you don’t seem to like giving her a big hello or goodbye kiss - thinking funny things to say anytime she asks you a direct question - keep thinking of funny things to say even when she is upset because you don’t seem to be connecting with her or sharing yourself - remembering not to touch her too much - trying not to think about wanting to cuddle her as you are sitting far apart and this is not likely to change because she is shy or old fashioned so will not initiate ever! - constantly being on guard of sharing too much, giving too much, telling too much, - trying to calculate when you last shared, gave, told so as to figure out when would be appropriate to next share, give, tell.. - going out to more single bars again because the really great girl you had drifted away because you hardly called her or let her know you wanted to say hello - monitoring her giving - remembering how many I love you’s you have said and making sure the next one doesn’t come to soon.. I am exhausted just writing this list.. Thanks goodness I found a great authentic guy and we just decided to fall in love the old fashioned messy way.. all up front and open and risky… The above advice is like ‘The Rules’ for girls, it manipulates woman insecurities and when you get clingy behaviour as a result it pretends that it is some sort of meaningful relationship. Come on you can reach higher than that. Now when you look across at someone and say hay take me as I am, I am good enough warts and all.. and they say yes please.. then that feeling when your relating on this level to someone is the greatest feeling ever.