I was also in a similar situation with a woman.
In hindsight, the things I didn't like about her were reflections of what I needed to solve within myself. Being a good example will help indirectly. Playing the role of social worker is not recommended.
On a logical level, when making dating decisions today, I follow the system. If I noticed early on that the woman had chronic low self-esteem then I would be a Spartan and move on. In addition to a good attitude, I want a woman who has low emotional baggage.
Another possibility is her need for constant self-assurance would not be met since I'm a challenge and she would walk. Until she is my girlfriend I would only see her once a week and stay off the phone.
The goal is to not have a wife who calls to check-in every 2 hours while I'm out with my drinking buddies. By moving on I'm doing the next guy a favor since she will eventually improve that part of herself. |