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Old 05-08-2008, 08:53 AM
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Well, you know the drill... you cannot change her, but you can change how you respond to her.

You may need to be a little less sympathetic and easy going with her. Stand your ground! You love her, but you do need space to have your own friends and do your own things - you are not a bad boyfriend for wanting those things.

In fact, it is better for both of you! You are not helping her with her security issues by giving in to her play - you are only reinforcing her idea that the world is a bad place and you are the only one who gives her anything. Not good!
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