Happiness is something you do.
It's very nearly the opposite of seeking security, it is when you have take the courage to do what you like, without wasting time contemplating the possible consequences to you first.
The peace that comes with the practice of clear minded meditation doesn't compare with the joy and self-esteem that comes of successful effort. Or in fact, any effort that moves towards a positive result. There are such things as negative risks, taken for their own sake and not because much good can come of it, it can lead to a kind of sickening addiction to stepping towards what you don't want rather than what you do want, in the name of eroding ones fear of that which you don't want. It's not a good idea to prove you're not scared of a bad idea!
Happiness is taking up a good idea and running with it.
Personally I see the problem as being 'socialised' into thinking the thing you want, or the person you are, is not up to a good standard. You're encouraged to become idealistic about what to do and this I think is the source of the trouble and the barrier to spontaneous action. 3, 2, 1...  |