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Originally Posted by The Cloud  So I am beginning to believe that telling somebody why their beliefs are wrong and explaining what is wrong with them and proposing a belief that doesn't encounter that problem is next to useless. Only once they fundamentally understand the belief will they realize that you were right (provided you were), and by that time they no longer need your explanation. I've been posting long involved answers to many people's questions on why they are so miserable and what they can change their beliefs to in order to not be so miserable, and I'm beginning to think that it has no real benefit beyond improving my typing skills. The same thing applies to my interactions with real people; no matter how clearly I state my point it just doesn't penetrate. |
I think you have a belief that is wrong here. And I'm going to practice my typing to tell you why but it's probably not going to penetrate.
just kidding...
but seriously, most answers are trying to help people look at their beliefs, or other ways to see something. and at some level the issue of holding onto a belief that isn't working is really the core issue. If the answer helps expose a tighly held belief, it may help.
The answer doesn't even have to say what to believe. I don't think a good or workable answer would have to be proposing another belief.
However just pointing out the belief is not the fix either. It always comes down to letting go of the belief, perhaps. And the core belief to let go of is that one would be better to not "hold" a belief at all.
But maybe I too am "holding" this belief that one must let go of belief. That once one can be flexible about what to believe, there aren't going to be many questions about personal issues.
I mean, a personal issue is usually about beliving something that one doesn't need to believe, I think.