I would help her. And I would help her in such a way that she is only able to use the funds for their intended purpose -- pay a bill directly, buy food and drop it at her house, pay a school bill.
While I see where you are coming from Jim, I also have to say that there comes a time when you have to let people feel the consequences of their actions if they will ever be able to stand on their own feet. If I remember correctly she is in her 20s and has a child and has never stepped up to the plate to become financially responsible.
I'd hate to see freddy in a situation where his retirement years are spent bailing out and supporting his middle aged kids (as is the case with some in my own family) to his own stress and detriment.
You can perhaps pay off a certain bill for her and let her know that you will not do it again (and of course you have to stick to that). You might also be able to help her with budgeting and saving.
ETA: I just realized that's the first time I've sorta disagreed with Jim on something. Perhaps it's a sign of the pending Apocolypse!!
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