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Originally Posted by fwellers  fidelity is a GIFT that one person gives another !! If one person trys to force fidelity out of another, it robs that other person of the joy of giving it. Forced fidelity is a sham. An illusion. It is not love, it's a sick form of co-dependency. It does not empower the other person, it makes them like a slave. On the other hand, allowing a person to gift you with their fidelity actually creates the joy of giving. It's a wondeful thing.
That's it, in a nutshell.
Think about it. |
^^^ This is your answer. Give, and don't worry about receiving.
You can't take someone's love and padlock it in a box and guard it. In all honesty it is that kind of distrustful behavior that drives people away.
Love is most wonderful when you are not afraid to let it go. He will be gone from your life one day anyway, either through breakup or death, so let go now. Don't worry about when or how that end is going to come... just enjoy every moment you are together. His smile, his touch, his words, his human-ness... these moments are the most wonderful things in life, make sure you experience them fully. Don't throw those moments away by worrying.
If you make sure of that, your relationship will be as long and fulfilling as it can be.