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Originally Posted by Spartan  When is it reasonable to let yourself feel attraction towards someone? And under what circumstances is it reasonable to act on those feelings?
Are you cautious - keeping your cards and feelings close to your chest? Or do you play every hand regardless of the odds?
If you feel attracted towards someone, but don’t think there’s a good enough reason, would you still act? For example, would you hesitate about asking someone out for a date, because you didn’t know them well enough? And would you date someone you barely knew?
Do you consistently try to hide your attraction towards people (acting like a friendly robot), or do you indulge that side of your nature? |
It's always reasonable to have any feelings towards any emotion no matter what anyone here or anywhere else would tell you.
There are no "right" or "wrong" emotions - they just are.
Its what you DO with them that counts.
Its ok to feel emotions privately. The ethics come in determining ACTIONS.
Do not confuse the two.
In order to determine whether your feelings should be expressed to another person, ask yourself how would they react and is it a good fit for the situation?
Other people are entitled to their own feelings and actions as well.
If you determine that the other person may not react well, keep your feelings private by writing them in a journal and indulging in your own fantasies privately, but don't obsess.
Accept and move on.
If the person might reciprocate interest, then go for it, attentively.