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Transcendent · 05-04-2008, 06:27 AM

I temporarily moved to a new city for work. I met a girl that came into my work a lot. She seemed really great but there were a couple problems.

She told me she was moving out of state within the month.
I didn't know how long my job assignment would last, it's usually a few months.
I had to work over 100 hours a week so I didn't have any free time.

We talked about it a bit and I told her it would be better if we were just friends. If she was moving so soon then I didn't see a point in starting a relationship.

She continued coming to my work to see me. It's almost like she wouldn't take no for an answer, and I really did like her. We started to hang out and become more than friends. A couple weeks go by and we are progressing extremely slowly because I don't have much free time. She then tells me that she has to delay her move for 2 weeks. We hang out, time goes by, then she tells me she has to push back her move for 2 more weeks. This happens another time after that.

We slept together once, and I didn't get a chance to see her for another week. I had a day off and we spent the entire day together. She stayed at my place that night, but nothing happened because we both were feeling under the weather. After that I was sick, then she was sick, then I was sick and we didn't see each other for a couple weeks. After all that was resolved I kept trying to make plans with her but she kept saying she was busy or that she couldn't and would let me know when she was free. We kind of drifted apart and I didn't talk to her for about a month and a half.

Recently we ran into each other and she was really excited to see me. She wanted to hang out with me that night but there was no way that I could. I told her about the bachelor auction that I was going to be in and she said that she was going to buy me. A little later she mentioned something about the guy she was now dating.

I saw her again a week later and we talked a bit. She kept saying how much her life sucks and how boring it is and that she isn't going to move out of state after all. We talked for about an hour and while I was getting ready to leave, she hugged me from behind, held onto me for about a minute and kept telling me how good I smell.

That's where I stand. I really like this girl and think that if we had met at another time and place that we would have a long and meaningful relationship. I'm just really confused about it all. I don't know if she really has a boyfriend or if she's just testing me.

I would really appreciate any thoughts on this situation. It's been a whole crazy thing.

05-04-2008, 06:27 AM	#1 (permalink)
Transcendent Junior Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 22	Looking for advice on a girl I was seeing. I temporarily moved to a new city for work. I met a girl that came into my work a lot. She seemed really great but there were a couple problems. She told me she was moving out of state within the month. I didn't know how long my job assignment would last, it's usually a few months. I had to work over 100 hours a week so I didn't have any free time. We talked about it a bit and I told her it would be better if we were just friends. If she was moving so soon then I didn't see a point in starting a relationship. She continued coming to my work to see me. It's almost like she wouldn't take no for an answer, and I really did like her. We started to hang out and become more than friends. A couple weeks go by and we are progressing extremely slowly because I don't have much free time. She then tells me that she has to delay her move for 2 weeks. We hang out, time goes by, then she tells me she has to push back her move for 2 more weeks. This happens another time after that. We slept together once, and I didn't get a chance to see her for another week. I had a day off and we spent the entire day together. She stayed at my place that night, but nothing happened because we both were feeling under the weather. After that I was sick, then she was sick, then I was sick and we didn't see each other for a couple weeks. After all that was resolved I kept trying to make plans with her but she kept saying she was busy or that she couldn't and would let me know when she was free. We kind of drifted apart and I didn't talk to her for about a month and a half. Recently we ran into each other and she was really excited to see me. She wanted to hang out with me that night but there was no way that I could. I told her about the bachelor auction that I was going to be in and she said that she was going to buy me. A little later she mentioned something about the guy she was now dating. I saw her again a week later and we talked a bit. She kept saying how much her life sucks and how boring it is and that she isn't going to move out of state after all. We talked for about an hour and while I was getting ready to leave, she hugged me from behind, held onto me for about a minute and kept telling me how good I smell. That's where I stand. I really like this girl and think that if we had met at another time and place that we would have a long and meaningful relationship. I'm just really confused about it all. I don't know if she really has a boyfriend or if she's just testing me. I would really appreciate any thoughts on this situation. It's been a whole crazy thing.