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Originally Posted by missing  the thing is, everybody's situation is different. You really don't know for sure why somebody's life is the way it is. You may have hints and clues but there always can be something you don't know. For some so called "losers" it might NOT be a choice |
Giving yourself over to circumstance is always a choice, IMHO.
If you've been dealt a bad hand, you can choose to make the best of it or do nothing but bitch and moan about how the big bad world isn't giving you any breaks. Doing the latter makes you a loser - regardless of circumstance.
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Not saying this is always the case but different situations call for different lenses to view them through, and it's probably a good idea to view the same situation through as many different lenses as you can. Sometimes the "PR" lens is a good one to go by, but not always.
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Thing is, I am perfectly capable of viewing different situations through different lenses, but none of those negate the fact that people can either give in to their circumstances or try to overcome them.
The people who overcome their circumstance give us grand stories, like the guy who had to have his legs amputated and then went on to win the New York Marathon with prosthetic legs, or small ones, like the single mom working three jobs to pay for her son's education and then sees him grow up to be successful high priced lawyer.
Not all these stories of people trying to overcome circumstance have happy endings, unfortunately - but each and everyone is a better tale than that of those who gave up before trying.
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Many people, especially people in Personal Development, and "successful" people (it's easy to take personal responsibility when things go your way)
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Almost without exception, all those "successful" people got to where they are by taking personal responsibility when things didn't go their way. Their success (and I mean living a fulfilling life, not having lots of money) is the reward for making it trough the rough patches.
It is very rare to find success without hardship.