Hi am new to this forum and this is my first post (wish it could be better), anyway to the point:
At the moment I am currently engaged and have been for the last 2 years and have recently found out that she is cheating on me...AGAIN!!!
In total I have caught her twice and been told about a 3rd time
The 1st time was over a year ago I was in hospital Febuary of 2007 (nearly died) after I had got out we went out for a few drinks and ended up staying at a friend. Me and my fiance slept in the spare room but when I woke up in the morning she wasn't there? I went down stairs to have a smoke and could here some strange noises coming from his room? Thinking "his girlfriend is away this weekend" I quickly finished my smoke and then nocked on his room door...when I walked in all I saw was her with no trousers on and him with nothing on and all he said was "oh...s**t".After that I just got out that flat as quickly as I could and just walked about for hours not taking any of there calls trying to think about what had just happened...when I did speak to them later all she had to say when I asked why was "It just happened".
I believe in 2nd chances so I gave her another chance...
Then no more than a week later he was over at our's and she had walked him out to the car and I desided I would go for a walk as it was a nice night (you could see the stars
) she then called me asking if I had just walked by and I told her what I was doing.After being away for bout a minute I desided I would go and see if she wanted to come with but when I got to his car and looked in the window there she was with her head in his lap (I think you can all probably guess what she was doing to him) once again when I asked why..."It just happened"
Even before I had caught them the 1st time I had accidently picked up her phone (we both had the same phone at the time) and seen some text and pics that she had sent him...the kind of stuff she should only be sending to me
As I mentioned there is a 3rd time which included him and her but also included his girlfriend as well???His gf must have a consionce as she told me about it all be it about a month after it happened but I had waited a while longer to see if my fiance would tell me...but she never so I Cornered all of them about it and they were forced to tell me. There excuse...it was a drunken mistake...
I dont trust her with him at all...she's always leaving me alone in the house to go see him and am starting to notice its more so when his gf is away...and once again I went through her phone (on purpose this time) and there's pics he's sent her and messages like "I want you so bad" and "I wish you were here right now" there are also other messages that go into great detail about what she wants to do to him and what he wants to do her...she never sent me pics or messages like she sends him
Her best friend (and mine) warned me about her before I started dating her...she's not got a great track record ie she's cheated on ALL of her boyfriends before me...i've spoke to her about whats happenedand I put my hands up and said "Im sorry you were right, I should have listened" she says she's proude of me for admitin I was wrong and thinks I should leave her...problem also I have no where to go Parents dont have the room for me anymore and most of my friend that had flats are now in the forces.
So as you can see im stuck between a rock and a hard place
Any advice would greatly be appreciated
PS sorry about the spelling and the length
