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Originally Posted by makessense  Too late? What has Steve Pavlina been teaching you in his articles? It's NEVER too late. Stop making excuses for yourself, "I'm not social enough, I haven't made friends all my life ... " and start living a life you want. |
^^ i completely agree. I know a woman who was never college educated, but when she became older... went and got her PsyD (essentially a phd in psychology) because she always wanted one. After she recieved it i asked her, "what are you going to do now that you have your PsyD?"
Any idea what her reply was? She said, "absolutely nothing!" She wanted the degree, and that's all that mattered to her. It wasn't a means to any end except within itself! Very interesting indeed. I think the same kind of things can be said about friendship. If you want it, no matter at what age, etc... go out there and get it! I can be done, but you do have to
try .
I don't personally have very many friends. I was very popular in high school, but through some life changing events and a move... my ties to old friends were cut. I suffered lonliness for about two years..., and i mean lonliness. No interaction but with my family, internet, and school/work! It changed my views a lot. I think it has made me less reliant on people now, and also i understand myself much, much better. I realized though, that the only problem i had with making friends was myself. I didn't have any severe flaws that prevented me from making friends except the fact that i constantly convinced myself that i could not do it.
So, the first step is realizing you can do it. Next is learning how to start up and maintain good conversations, which also is not so difficult. Once you overcome those two steps, it's simply a matter of finding friendly people who have similar interests to you!