Indeed, pay attention to and try to balance being assertive and being aggressive. People get the two mixed up very often.
I think whatever you feel is right is what you should do. If you feel that a continued friendship with her would not be worth overcoming the current boundaries, and perhaps having to deal with more difficult situations in the future... then forget it. If you think she is a good friend, then maybe take a week or two longer to think aobut it an then decide. Taking a break could be effective in letting both of your anger drain a bit (though i know this is less the case with females for some reason; many females tend to hold extended grudges when there are problems with same-sex friends, so i've observed).
Personally, i'd just leave her. I don't doubt that there are many people out there who could be just as much, if not more valuable as a friend... while causing less problems in the meantime as well.
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