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Originally Posted by JimOfferman  I also have a hard time seeing losers as being the ones who have taken too much personal responsibility, as the few losers I know are losers precisely because they avoid taking responsibility for anything in their lives. Nothing is their fault, there is always someone else to blame and they are true victims of their circumstance.
Makes me very sad to think that someone would choose to live like that... |
the thing is, everybody's situation is different. You really don't know for sure why somebody's life is the way it is. You may have hints and clues but there always can be something you don't know. For some so called "losers" it might NOT be a choice but you can't see it because your "personal responsibility" lens blinds you to other perspectives. Not saying this is always the case but different situations call for different lenses to view them through, and it's probably a good idea to view the same situation through as many different lenses as you can. Sometimes the "PR" lens is a good one to go by, but not always. Many people, especially people in Personal Development, and "successful" people (it's easy to take personal responsibility when things go your way) are guilty of overuse, IMO. They view all reality through the lens of "personal responsibility" and thus cheapen both the collective value of the lens, and their ability to get a realistic grasp of the world. Thus they wind up doing more harm than good, even though they are often well intentioned.
That makes me sad.