First of all, welcome! I hope you get what you'd like to get here, and I hope you give as well. So far so good!
Your story is a good object lesson for when someone tells you: "I'm not sure if I want to be in a relationship anymore." For all you ladies and gentlemen out there listening, when someone says that, run! Get out, and get out immediately. Do not waste anytime second guessing or singing the chicken opera. And whatever you do, use birth control!
For you, my dear, you're in a situation of your own making, and it doesn't sound like you're blaming him, which is great. You are so focused on the man, you didn't say much about the baby. Do you want to have a baby? Are you happy or dismayed about the pregnancy? Do you think the man will be a good father, whether or not you're together? Are you able to support yourself and a child if the guy flakes off (which seems like a pretty safe bet.) I think that despite whatever might happen with the guy, you would be very wise to take immediate steps to make sure you're covered as far as being able to take care of the baby. If I were you, I would talk to this fellow right away about how much responsibility he's going to take for the baby (assuming you're going to have it), how much of a commitment you're both willing to make to each other, and what you're going to do about raising the child if you don't stay together as a couple.
Whatever you do, don't take anything for granted! You can be very sure that whatever you are thinking about this situation, you can't read his mind, and you can't count on him doing what you think he *should* do.
Best wishes to you, and I hope you and your little one and very well.
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