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Originally Posted by JimOfferman  By asking yourself what is most important to you right now. |
As I said, my problem is that I am often very immersed wherever I am - which means that whatever I'm doing
right now automatically gives me immediate happiness - and becomes what is most important at this moment.
The consequence is that I forget everything else.
For example, if I stay with my girlfriend - I could probably stay with her for ages without thinking about anything else... thereby
forgetting that also videogames exist!
Conversely, if I start enjoying a videogame I won't get off of it even if my girlfriend keeps ringing - it's not because I want to be bad towards her. I literally
FORGET her since my mind is focused on the videogame :P (I've witnessed this also when my father watches soccer matches and completely forgets my mother...)
Obviously, [fortunately] the bodily constraints prevent me from doing the same thing for 24 hours a day. I get up, sleep, eat, and other daily routine things which provide me some distraction and allow me to detach a bit from what I'm doing.
I sometimes create schedules that I commit to. But if on one day I find something that gives me immediate enjoyment in that moment, I completely forget the schedule and do what I enjoy - even if there are very crucial appointments (recently I stayed hours making music with some co-musicians instead of going to an important appointment at the doctors'...)
Perhaps I can summarize everything I said with this phrase:
When I am immersed and enjoy something right now, I forget what is important/urgent.
And that is what often happened when I changed. I was sooo involved in the new things that my mind completely ignored tasks and duties I had since before.
I'm not sure whether that's healthy.