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Originally Posted by Faye  i had to stay quiet because when i tried to talk he would pulll my hair .. so i just listened |
Faye,
I am proud of you for beginning a spiritual journey and I think you are doing the right thing to pull away from a relationship that is no longer fulfilling, but I would like to address a more immediate issue...I am concerned about your personal safety.
In reading through this thread and it seems as if you have on more than one occasion felt afraid or threatened as a result of your former boyfriend's behavior. Now in the above quoted post you have indicated that he has been physical with you by pulling your hair. The Merck Medical Manual used by doctors to asses their patients has these aggressive psychological and physical behaviors listed as indicators of abuse:
Domestic Violence: Violence Against Women: Merck Manual Home Edition
I know you may not feel this applies to you, but please take the time to read through the above link for more information. I would also recommend reading a few articles on the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence website:
Safety Plan - National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
Preserving your physical and spiritual well being should be of equal importance. If you feel at all uncomfortable, leave now. People are far more important than things. You can always get your things later, with a trusted friend or officer, if necessary.
It is so easy to stay in situations that are unhealthy for us, because they are all we know. You have shown great courage and insight in the steps you have taken to find your own path to fulfillment thus far. Be proud of yourself. You deserve a life full of peace and happiness.
Please feel free to PM me if you need to talk.