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Originally Posted by JohnR  Yeah, you bet it is, but most judgments are made by comparison.
I assumed that in this case, Liz was judging herself by a standard set by her peers, or a societal standard, as evidenced by her comment, "I have accomplished very few things, some would say." |
I see - you are a good "listener" there.
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Until we have a firm grasp of our own standards, we use the default standards of society and acquaintances.
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Is it one or the other? Or could it be we feel lost once we give up comparing to standards of society? And then this feeling of lost hopefully will point us into realizing that we have to choose what kind of progress we want of ourselves?
There's the adage that one should compare progress only to one's self. However, like you say, that is not possible until we have our own standard for ourselves that we will us to measure our "progress" against.
It seems like there could a period that someone gives up one comparing to others but hasn't decided on their own standards, then that would make one feel quite lost, wouldn't you say?