Hey Alx,
You sound like you are able to think on your feet, articulate your thoughts, empathize with others etc... I don't see anything lacking.
Could be that the people you have trouble talking to, are those with whom you just don't have an easy rapport.
Not everybody has rapport with each other. It's probably the exception to find a person who has rapport with most everyone. Those are the people you will probably find thriving in politics or sales etc....
I am starting to find out that it's actually OK to not talk. In taking in the whole situation, a realization happens that it's not just me who isn't talking, it's the other person too. And we both know that we're not talking to each other. If I 'accept' the situation totally, then I am more at ease with it. I think that would put the other person more at ease too.
Silence is not a negative thing.
If this doesn't help at all, maybe you can provide some kind of example where you are in a situation where you think you should be talking but are unable to.
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