Hello everybody! Sorry about resurrecting an old thread, but I'm new here and I just had to respond since no one is taking the Devil's Advocate side. Allow me, if you will.
What you have listed is a pretty accurate description of one type of loser. But please understand that these behaviors are only the symptoms of being a loser. They aren't the cause.
Statisticians say that mathematically, there should be people who are naturally lucky and on the flip side, there should be unlucky people. Do you know of any unlucky people who have good attitudes? Yes? Well, I say that they aren't really unlucky. They might be currently having a bad streak of luck, but bad luck isn't a natural state for them. In order for you to have good expectations, you have to have experience with good outcomes. If you live your life setting goals, take note of other people's processes to accomplish the same goals, figure out what you need to accomplish those goals, execute the plan perfectly, and then watch a completely random and seemingly innocuous event destroy the goal, after the thousandth time this happens in one year you will naturally start to think that life is short changing you.
You only look down on people like this because you don't know what it's like to experience the things that cause a person to be that way. I would say walk in their shoes for one day, but really it's not enough to walk in their shoes for one day because it's not a single day of bad luck, but a lifetime of bad luck that makes someone get this way. Walk in their shoes for a year and you'll begin to see what it's like to live with bad luck. You think that they cause bad things to happen because of a bad attitude, but you have it backwards. They have a bad attitude because of the bad things that consistently happen that they have no control over. I know that their bad attitude makes it worse, but when you are stuck swirling down the drain, it's hard to pull yourself out without help.
And please don't point me to the "Intention - Minifestation" board. I'm so sick of that religion, and it is a religion. It's a humanistic religion whereby someone attempts to either tap into a higher power, or to replace the higher power with himself. (Luck is not a higher power, it's just mathematical streaks working for or against someone.) If intention worked, then people who "feel lucky" getting off the plane in Vegas wouldn't be broke 3 hours later. And you know that this happens all the time.
Rather than judge "losers" and laugh in their face, which only makes things worse for them, why not help them instead? Bring some positive energy into their life. Be a wingman for them one night. And if they push you away, don't take it badly and take it out on them. You'll only make it worse. They probably need the support of more than one person to change their opinion of humanity. They are callous after a lifetime of bad luck. Give them enough positive people who are willing to support and help them to fight the bad luck, and you will see a different person emerge. This will especially work when lucky people enter his life, as long as the lucky people align their goals with the unlucky person instead of against him. If they compete with him, then, well, that's a good way to make him go postal and start shooting.
Thanks for listening.
-Alex  |