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Originally Posted by JimOfferman  Sorry if this sounds harsh, but you are not his friend - you are only using him to feel good about yourself and that is, apparently, not working out. If you were his friend, you would gladly hang out with him on fridays to help him take his mind of the care for his parents, his not finding jobs, etc. |
Huh? How are you getting that Introspective is using his friend? He hangs out with him because he knows his friend needs him,but his friend isn't there for him,only when his friend is bored.
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Also, I think you should be thankful for the people who want to keep you in their social circle by inviting you to birthdays and other events (even if you hardly ever meet on other occasions). Such social events are excellent places to meet new friends and keep up with existing friends - with all of whom you can possibly develop a closer relationship later on.
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But the reason why people invite all their friends to their birthday parties is for THEIR sake,so they can feel like they have a ton of friends and life is good cuz all their friends are still good enough to come spend their day with them. That is horrible. The only people i want to spend my birthday with are the friends i normally see on a regular basis,not people i haven't spoken to in 364 days.
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Of course, no one is forcing you to go to these birthdays or keep those friendships.
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No, but if you don't go,then they turn YOU into the *******. I have gone to yearly birthday parties (where i dont see the people all year round) only because I dont want them turning it around saying i am a bad friend,because obviously i'm the better friend for showing up. I have a horrible time at their parties but i do it for them,i dont know why i care so much. I care too much.