it's called "latent" function.. or in this case perhaps, dysfunction. "manifest" function = intended result, "latent" function = unintended side effect.
this happens with essentially anything on a social level, but the idea most certainly applies to many different things. i don't think there is always much you can do, because the latent function of something is often unforseen.
i know exactly what you mean though. when i quit drugs a while ago i lost a lot of friends. contrary to popular belief, many of them WERE good friends actually, and wanted to hang out with me even though i was clean. i, on the other hand, wanted nothing to do with them because i didn't want to risk getting into trouble, and i didn't want the drug influence (even though it would've been indirect).
but, what can you do? not much, just try to make the best of what you've got and move on. at least with your situation, you have a bit of a choice. you COULD read if you wanted to, etc. really what it all comes down to though is you do what's best for you; whatever makes you happy. if you're happy being highly social, etc, then screw reading!  |