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Originally Posted by sheffy4  Ways to start conversation:
ASK QUESTIONS
Deep questions, superficial questions, any kind of questions. |
Yes, ask questions, and listen. People like it when others express interest in them, whether it's an inquiry or just someone listening to them.
Asking questions isn't so hard, start with something broad and try to build questions off of their reply if you can. If you can't, ask a different question.
When you listen, listen intently. Give eye contact from time to time (more or less depending on whether it seems they're comfortable with it), nod your head. Try not to interrupt them, but give your comments or your aknowledgements when you feel the time is right; especially if it supports what they're saying. Wait until they are done talking before you give your personal opinions, but try not to express "i'm right, your wrong." Nobody likes to be told they're wrong, even if it's indirectly.
Confidence could also be an issue. Just the same with not telling them their opinions are wrong, or trying to make your own opinions look awesome (a lot of time people do this unconsciously or unintentionally). .. People don't like to feel inferior whether they really are or not. People tend to be competitive in everything (esp in the us), so if you treat them like they're a somebody, or even as if they're your equal... they'll notice it rightaway and remember it because it's a very special, and powerful quality to have; people like it. You give respect, you get respect.
