After I sent the post, I went back to read the updates, and it looks like a huge thing happened. The fact that while he was in control he did things he knew you didn't like and hurt you, shows his true character. That usually doesn't change. Then his response when you took his power away, WHEEEEEEEEEEEEEEW, he has some problems that are too big for you. You have proven to have good character. You seem very normal (if there is such a thing) and well rounded in your own emotions, etc... Understand that if you stayed with him, your life would be hell. RUN!!! You should look for a mate with similar character, someone who is confident (in the real and right ways), who is motivated to be the best he can be (in a realistic way), who has the same vision of life and future, who wants the same things as you, who you feel you can enjoy doing almost anything with. And on and on.... This guy would suck out every last ounce of your dignity. He has too many problems for you. Like some of the other posters said, "Just because you love someone, doesn't mean you should or have to be with that person." Care for yourself enough to move on and forget about him. You deserve a much better life. My concern now is your safety. Really cover all of your bases there.
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