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Originally Posted by Steve Pavlina  I'm actually very curious to know what beliefs others have found most empowering when it comes to sex. |
In my opinion sexual energy is the most fundamental energy in life. Life itself comes forth from it!
Because it’s in essence energy, you can use it for many purposes: to pleasure your body, to pleasure the body of one or more partners, to create a new life, to manifest other goals in the world (see Think and Grow Rich), or to return to the source of this energy (Higher Self) by saving it and channelling it to your higher centers.
On the practical level the opinions differ on how one exactly can handle the sexual energy:
Mantak Chia (author of The Multi Orgasmic Man) and tantra expert Margot Anand advise the man not to ejaculate. But in their opinion a man (and woman) can have extended and multiple orgasms.
Marnia Robinson (Peace Between the Sheets) advises orgasm-less sex. Her argument is that if you get orgasms from a partner, you start to expect it from him/her and that will put pressure on the relationship. When you only have orgasmless sex, you can concentrate on the connection you feel with your partner without the urge / need to give and receive physical pleasure.
Elisabeth Haich (Sexual energy and Yoga) says that the core of desire for sex and relationships is a longing for unity. But real unity can only be established with your Higher Self, so true and lasting unity can only be established in yourself. As soon as you start looking for another to fulfil the desire for unity, you will fail to accomplish it. So one will never fulfil this desire completely if they don't find it in themself. She advises to use your sexual energy to expand your consciousness by restraining it (preferably but not necessarily by living celibate) and channelling it in your higher centres. This way you can connect with your Higher Self. Personally I think that if you want to be free of desire this is the only use of sexual energy that can accomplish this. But you can also see desire as a positive stimulus to make the most of life.
Sexual energy is a great gift and it’s up to you to decide how you want to use it. It just depends on what you want to accomplish.