Originally Posted by Gabriel.B
The amount of turning points I've had where I though 'This is it! The solution to my fundamental problem/block' The amount of times I've discovered a new article or tried a new NLP technique, or build my discipline over from scratch, over and over -is uncountable. I feel I've just reached a point of not caring anymore, im just running in circles, I get angry that I can't take persistent action! I do something about it, but only for so long, the longest I've held out straight is 1 month and within that one month everything feels really great, I'm happy, I'm content, I'm disciplined, hardworking, progressing and then something happens ranging from minor things like being generally lazy or something bigger like getting over a breakup.
Ugh, that sounds familiar.
Sounds as if, like me, you are always looking for The Solution To Make Everything Perfect!(tm)
You make a marked improvement in your life, but then improvement stops for a bit and things are merely better than they were, you think "This doesn't work!" and go into a depressed backslide (correct me if I'm wrong).
I'm still looking for the Solution(tm)
to that myself (irony, much?). What I've come up with so far is, it's about expectations. There's a bit in my brain that keeps prematurely ratcheting up the expectation for success. So even if I'm twice as good as I was yesterday, my brain goes "You could've been 4x as good if you tried!".
I think that's what people mean when they talk about acceptance and gratitude. If you're not happy with what you've got now, you're probably in the habit of not being "happy with what you've got" in general. And if "what you've got" isn't enough for you now, it probably still won't be enough for you when there's twice as much of it (though advertising agencies would like you to believe otherwise).
Oh, and read Backpedalling Your Brain (dirtSimple.org)
. That's a darn good principle, even if I haven't quite figured out to apply it yet (if anyone does, please
Urm, that was kind of a braindump. Hope there's something useful to you in there somewhere...