That's crazy. How can they reject someone??? I am spiritual but not religious, and my highest priority is finding someone with similar beliefs. I am on eharmony now, and getting mached with all sorts of christian men, as well as some others that fall into that 'spiritual but not religious' catagory. I am a strange mix of qualities, and for sure, I don't fit the norm, in that I encompass multiple ways of relating within one person - most people go one way or the other, I seem to be everything at once. I have found a few dating possibilities, but no-one absolutely amazing yet. What internet dating does is take away that real-world 'click' you can feel when you meet someone that you know on another level. You judge on how they present, their looks and words alone, not the feeling they project in person. I could have overlooked 10 soul mates by now without realizing it...
Well take heart, eharmony is quite expensive. They are a business, designed to create wealth. The first matches they send are the ones you are most compatible with. You have to send 'must-haves' and 'can't-stands'. 10 of each. Now, if someone sent me 10 things they can't stand, there is a very good chance one of those things would be partially true, and I'd have to close myself off from them out of consideration. Erin was much more realistic when she chose four must-haves, and found Steve. So everyone closes their most compatible people first, without realizing it. By the time you learn the ropes, i.e, not to close so many people, than it's too late, and your most compatible matches have moved on. This keeps you searching... and searching.... coming back to them. When doing the personality profile, I'd answer based on how you normally feel about yourself rather than current odd events.
I'm curious what sort of person you are... who would be incompatible with their system. Again, their loss.  |