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You will never make a change until you make a change. Find something that you have always wanted to do and MAKE yourself do it. Go to the gym for a pilates class, take a music lesson, take dance lessons with abandon. Just Do It!! I know that sounds cliche, but no one else can do it for you. You have created a "box of limitations" for living your life and human nature is that you will fear stepping out of it. You are stuck in your habits. You have to make changes to have something different. Dr. Phil puts a theory into simple english, "Start the behaviour and the feeling will come." That is SO TRUE. You have to get past the initial fear of beginning, realizing that you won't fail, to reach the point where believe it or not, you actually enjoy it! Even if you look stupid, it is OK! No one is perfect. Most successful people will applaud you for trying. It is easy to shrink into the woodwork and hide in your home. The hard part is facing your fears, putting yourself out there. If you are concerned because you feel that you are socially inept, there is help for that. You only have to be a person with integrity that people can respect and be a person that is solution driven and willing to work for it. People like people who are positive, problem solvers, get it done, motivated kind of people. It is ok to complain when there is a problem. But, you then have to find the solution and quit complaining about it. No one REALLY cares about your problems and complaints. The people who love you do. But, even they get tired of hearing about it. They have their own problems. What people expect you to do is find a solution to the problem so it doesn't control you, so you can move on with your life, so they can enjoy a pleasant, happy person to be around. Enough of that! I am writing this assuming that you are aware of most of this and can decide to just start. Just do it! Live your life by your own designs, not by what you are afraid people will think of you.