I'll clarify things with an analogy, the following is all completely made up (and rather extreme) but I think it will illustrate everything properly:
Tom thinks he looks like Sean Connery in Goldfinger: same physical appearence, same walk, some posture and same voice. Tom, thusly, feels good about himself thanks to this belief (this positive self-image). Sometimes however, when confronted with certain evidence, Tom thinks maybe he doesn't look like that at all, that he looks actually looks worse than this. This confuses Tom and makes him feel bad that he doesn't look as good as he thought he did.
Anyway, I think you guys have helped me break down the problem into manageable parts. I guess I have to adjust what I look like in my own head to what I really truly look like, and then accept that realistic image. The only way I can think of doing this is, as I say, through exposure to lots and lots of photos and videos.
So, thank you, and if anyone has anything else to add by all means do. |