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Originally Posted by kboleski  On another note, living together before marriage is not a good idea. I don't want to hear from all the "do what ever you want" people. Too many studies on this subject have proven that it is detrimental to a relationship, especially after marriage. We live in a "If it doesn't work, I can get out of it" mindset that destroys the ability to keep with that kind of committment. That mindset doesn't change after you get married either. Be careful and I hope you work this out. |
Perhaps the idea that everyone should be in a life-long monogamous marriage is itself an archaic concept, and we're starting to wake up to the idea that shorter mateships and/or multiple mateships are not necessarily a bad thing. I don't personally see what's wrong with taking the time to test the waters by living with someone else before you ultimately decide to commit to what you expect to be a life-long marriage. Most people wouldn't buy a car on a few brief glimpses alone--they'd want to at least test-drive it first.