I agree with Jim. You sound like you are on the road to taking 100% responsibility, buy you're building a lot of stress into the "lessons" you've learned. I would second reframing what you've said in your thread and seeing how it feels.
You might start with your title. Is it true you were "dumped"? I mean, if that is your inner truth, then you'll be carrying "dumped" into your next relationships. That sounds very stressful to me. Another way to look at what happened is to recognize with gratitude that she is taking the right actions and making the right choices for her life, and that doesn't mean anything about you (like, "I've been dumped.")
Each of your other points contains, as Jim said, a limiting belief that you are giving power to -- power that could be transformed.
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