Aside from 7) all items on your list are very limiting beliefs - you may very well find love if you keep carrying those around, but I would rather try to reframe them in my mind to be empowering.
For example, instead of 1) you could say:
I want my next relationship to be with someone who loves me exactly as I am and exactly as I am not. Likewise, I will love her exactly as she is and exactly as she is not.
When you frame it like that, you recognize that having weaknesses does not make you unattractive - it makes you human. You stop blaming your failed relationships on your ineptitudes and instead start taking responsibility for creating the life you love to live. You start looking forward instead of backward.
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