blah, I'm not even particularly beautiful, not hideous, but hardly a model, a bit overweight, wear glasses, and don't put much effort into my looks beyond being clean and neat; my theory is that either all women are approached this way maybe more often (in which case women here should have good advice for me??? I can imagine not engaging with the guys, often I am pleasant but distant and don't offer the opening for conversation, but sometimes guys come up with interesting first comments and I have the time or feel too rude to ignore them, and these things get started...) or else they're attracted to goofy happy smiles and skipping (can't help it, sometimes the world is so beautiful!) and then to friendly listening and chatting and shared interests. Sort of going off the point because enjoying compliments is egotistical whether it's being complimented for physical or nonphysical attractiveness, but I really'd rather meet more guys who aren't looking for a date and could just interact without wanting anything from me... but I suppose some level of attraction to eachother's personalities/minds/interests is necessary for friendships too?  |