Originally Posted by Nani
Erin, I remember you wrote in your blog that you decide when to die, so if a loved one passes away we should be comforted by the fact that they themselves made this decision. But what if this person was murdered or something? Did they still choose to die? People have free will so they can mess up any plans you made before you were born as a human. So do we really choose when we die?
In reply to this first question I doubt many people are consciously aware that they have made decisions in regard to the course of their life, after they are born. Although I've found it quite intriguing that some people unconsciously prepare for their own death. A close friend passed away recently and tracking back the course of events leading up to her unexpected death, she'd done some unusual things like taken out life insurance, reconnected and mediated a rift between her children, given away lifelong personal treasures.
Another friend told me how his wife had bought a months groceries, spring cleaned the house, and paid all the household bills in advance during the last days leading up to her sudden unexpected death. She even left a book on death and dying under his pillow. This lady died of a heart attack and had no prior heart or health problems in her early fifties. My friend was so devastated at the lengths she'd gone to to make sure he was taken care of that he traveled to the UK to personally see a medium he'd seen on TV so he could tell his wife how much he loved her. He reckons he'd taken her from granted and needed to let her know.
I wonder how many other people have stories like this to tell.