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Originally Posted by introspective1  I feel like all the friendships that I am in, I have to be the one to initiate at least 80-90% of the contact. |
Your problem is that you are using the "contact initiation ratio" to rate the strength/value of the friendship, but that is a very poor measure.
It is actually pretty rare to have friendships that are perfectly balanced, where A is the first to call B just as many times as B is first to call A. I don't have a single one of those. A fair few friendships exist because I am the one who keeps the ball rolling and there is also a good number of people who must keep reminding me that they would like to be a part of my life.
In groups (and that includes duos), there are always herders (those who take initiative) and sheep (those who follow initiative). You need at least one herder to keep the group together and groups comprised of herders alone are very rare, because they will quickly attract a bunch of sheep. In every group you're in
you get to decide whether you want to be a sheep or a herder. If you choose to be a herder, don't expect the sheep to lead you around. If you are tired of being a herder in one group, find another group where you can be a sheep!
(Note: I don't mean to imply that herders are somehow better than sheep - just that they have a different roles in the relationship)