I haven't seen you reference any times that you physically hang out with your friends. Are these exclusively online/phone relationships?
If they are, then what you are describing makes sense (to me). Friendships grow stronger by spending time and bonding over activities with that person. The bond would be significantly weaker if there was no physical contact and the two "friends" never bonded over a mutual experience. If the friendship is only virtual, it might be easy for one or both people to forget that there is a real person behind the screen name. Plus, both people have lives outside of the internet/phone relationship that the other person may not know about, simply because they are not physically present, and it may be "too much work" to try to explain this other life to the friend who is never there.
If this is true for you, I would recommend basing your friendships on shared experiences. Find people in the real world to be friends with. Don't just text the person, invite them over to your house to watch a movie, or have dinner or coffee together, go bowling! Do something fun so it will reinforce the pleasure of the friendship.
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