[Rockchick26]

Originally Posted by introspective1

I give plenty of value to my friends. I check up on them more than they do me.

I am the SAME way. When they come online,i am ALWAYS first to message them. I am always the first one to send them a long email about how my weekend went,and sometimes my friends don't even reply! That ticks me off so bad,it makes me want to just stop emailing them,but then that's pretty much throwing my friends away,there would be nothing then if i didn't hold it up.

I hate being criticized by people, which is one reason why I am not open to new friends. People find out more about who you are and they try to exploit your weaknesses.

I agree,i get criticized and teased by my friends too. That is probably why i'm so shy with new people because i KNOW how others see me,and i know it's inevitable that these new people will see me the same way,regardless of how i act with them. I am always friendly and nice and up for hanging out with people but they always end up picking on me too then i'm back at square one with this deep desire to have a true meaningful friendship where somebody really LIKES me and WANTS to hang out with me.

You may not care about what he did yesterday, but if he is a friend you should care about him enough to want to know how his day went, if there were any problems and such. If you want him to remain silent, then it does not sound like much of a friendship.

YEAH!!! I wish i could yell this right in everyone's face so they get it! I have friends who know i had a big weekend yet when we talk,they go on and on about THEIR weekend without even asking how mine went. Then if i do get a word in,their comments are always one word or one sentence long,then its back to them again. I think people are just too selfish. I have one friend who i chat with almost every day,but its not meaningful to me because i'll ask him a question and i have to wait like 5-10 minutes for the answer because he is so engrossed in telling me about his day that he sometimes doesnt even SEE when i ask him a question!

So i think the thing is people are just too selfish. I think people aren't as selfish when they get older,but that really sucks then for younger people because we can't wait a few decades to have friends that care!

I just feel so alone b/c I have struggled my whole life to find people who view life and friendships the way I do.

Yep,once again,i hear ya! Sometimes i seem to find it but then that person eventually goes their own way too. I have had and lost probably 4 or 5 best friends in my life. Some people say "well you're lucky you even had that many!" and i say "yeah but,doesn't anyone get my point?! If they were such good friends why did they leave me!?" People don't change THAT much...i mean i can see if one person wanted to go through some huge personality shift and go live in the woods for a few years,but people don't change that drastically,so WHY can't two best friends remain best friends!? With me,the longer i know someone,the more i want to keep that friendship,but with everyone else it seems like it's the opposite,they seem to feel like friendships are something that run their course and then they have to end. WHYYYYYYY do people feel that way!?