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But when you live among criminals it's hard (I'm not saying impossible, I'm just saying it's hard) to see that and believe it.
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Yeah, it's hard.
Learning martial arts to deal with people who attack you is also hard and requires a lot of work.
Having your own reality and not accepted the reality that other push on you is like a muscle.
It might be that at the moment that muscle might not be strong enough in you to effectively you it in a situation in which you fear to get beaten up.
Just like the "big bully" go to the gym to build there muscles you have to build your sense of reality on a consistent basis to be ready when it comes hard on hard.
A while ago you asked me "Why take responsibility?".
Taking responsibility for the things around you builds that muscle.
At your present level you might start with smaller things than complex interactions where the risks are huge.
It's no quick fix or easy overnight trick that you can learn but it might be a goal to become a person who can successfully assert their reality over his environment.
That more or less what learning to take responsibility comes down for me.
I myself I certainly not at the end of my journey either, for example my friend who was threatened with a knife is way stronger in his sense of reality than I am.
It's not the only way you can go in life.
You can go to the gym and train big muscles to face life's dangers or you can work more on the mental side of things and have your own sense of reality.
I don't think either way is easy. I primarily want to show you that the way of creating your own reality and to take responsibility is out there.
The "way of the bully" isn't the only way that can be successful.