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Originally Posted by blueberry  It's my life, my unique dreams, and abilities... and he wants to cast a gigantic shadow over all of that so I become the incapable person that used to need him so desperately. |
I doubt he's so devious. You're projecting your own fears onto him, and then scapegoating him.
If you don't like him always harping on you - stay out of the house as many hours a day as possible! It's as easy as that. Hang out at a coffee shop that has wireless. Bring your laptop and do what you usually do. Or go to the library and read. Go see a movie a day, by yourself. Go to a bar at night and meet new people. For very little money, you can keep yourself occupied ALL DAY.
Why are you trying to explain things to him? So he'll understand? Why should he understand? There isn't some law that says he has to understand. He's being himself. You're being yourself.
Let it go.