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Originally Posted by sonicpunk32  Ok, I understand now how to deal with this if this affected only my friends and family. But how would I deal with this if say... the shady person walks into a bar, and I'm in that bar with people I've never met. The shady person blabs my secret to these people whom I've never met. Should I be worried of what these people whom I've never met think of me now that they know my secret? |
It won't be a "secret" anymore. Once you take responsibility for this "issue" and are honest with your friends and family, it's no longer a secret (and, btw, you will have no control over whom they may subsequently tell). If it's a past event, you have to let it go (forgive yourself, make amends, etc.) and then leave it in the past. If you can get to that space, it will have no power over you. And these strangers might even think more highly of you for overcoming a past issue. For instance, if you had a drug habit, then some of these hypothetical strangers might appreciate the courage and determination that it took for you to overcome this habit.
If this is an ongoing issue, then, as other people have mentioned, you have attracted an opportunity to clean up the issue. Staying with my example above, if your drug habit is ongoing, then this will continue to be an issue for you until you take responsibility for disconnect between your actions and your "story" to the people around you.
In this case, you may find, if you're sincere in your desire to clean up this issue, that your friends and family may provide you with unexpected support and strength. And the LoA can help you attract resources and guides to help you clean up this issue and even attract people around you who are not "shady" but supportive in your personal development.