As long as you continue to judge your past, you'll continue to judge hers as well. If you want to get past this, then you need to learn to accept your own past. I would suggest telling her, without asking for forgiveness. Your past is past and much less important than what is happening right now. If you can show her that you aren't repulsed by your own past, then she may feel that she can tell you hers without fear of judgment. Even if she doesn't, you'll have the relief of having forgiven yourself and relieving your burden of guilt.
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